I'm impressed when I hear my friend David talk about his golf game. Years ago he and I used to play together regularly but more recently my outings have dropped off while his have increased. He plays every week, takes lessons, and is now shooting in the low 80's and high 70's! This is a marked improvement from when we used to play together. I've asked him how he has made such improvement and he told me that and in addition to regular practice and lessons, "if my swing just isn't working I try something different." That makes perfect sense. Why would one continue with the same old swing when the result is not what is wanted?
It is amazing, however, how often we get stuck in a rut and keep trying the same old thing, obviously getting the same old result. Parents often times employ the same old parenting strategy even though their child's attitudes and behavior are unacceptable. Couples often proceed with communication styles that never bring them closer to resolving conflict. Individuals try to come to grips with personal problems using techniques that failed through previous attempts. For each of these the wisdom of my friend make sense: Do Something Different! It is usually when we are willing to experiment and change that we eventually find the solution for the problem we are facing. Are you "stuck in a rut?" My Solution Focused advice for you is to do something different. You might just find your score and your life are getting better.
Dr. Allen Schneider is a United Methodist pastor and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist presently serving the Sapulpa and greater Tulsa communities.