We all know that grandmothers are wonderful but some of them are actually amazing. Last week my wife (Tumna to her grandkids) drove for two hours to watch our grand son run in a track meet. Neither of Andy's parents were going to be able to attend and Kristi thought it was important for a family member to be there in order to "cheer him on." Part of the problem, however, was that it was uncertain when, during the meet, Andy would run. So, Kristi left home around 8:00 am. and arrived in Chickasha around 10:00. As it ended up, Andy's "run" did not come until almost 3:30! She sat in the stands for over 5 hours, (she didn't want to leave to get something to eat for she feared his run might come while she was gone and she would miss it.) But she did eventually get to see him run. He ran the 880, which is approximately 1/2 mile. As you can imagine, the race didn't last very long. When we drive to watch a soccer match at least we get to watch an entire game which usually starts on time and lasts for a little over an hour. But Andy's 880 run lasted exactly 2 minutes and 35 seconds! Kristi had driven two hours to the meet and waited over five hours to watch Andy run for 2 minutes and 35 seconds! I submit to you that only a grandmother (a very special one) would do that. Having watched Andy she decided she might as well stay and his friend Max. She finally left the track meet around 5:00 and arrived home at 7:30 pm! So I think you can understand the title of this post: Grandmother's are Amazing! I don't know of any other people who are filled with so much love.
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Over the course of 46 years of ministry I've performed hundreds of weddings (pictured above - me with Kira & Walter Wilson). When asking each couple, "Why do you want to get married?" they inevitably say, "Because we love each other." Quite frankly, I think this is an honest and sincere response. However, if I talk to these couples some years later they usually will tell me that, through their life together, they have grown in their understanding of the meaning of love. Perhaps, in some ways, they will have grown to understand what Paul meant when he said, "Let love be sincere" (Rom. 12:9-12)...
Ash Wednesday falls on February 14 this year which, of course, is also Valentine's Day. My clergy friend, Larry Jacobson, shared in a FB post that since 1900, Valentine's day has fallen on Ash Wednesday only 4 times: 1923, 1934, 1945, and 2018. So this Ash Wednesday will be special in many ways. In response to my friend's post I pointed out that in the old Methodist Book of Worship, the "Service of Marriage," falls right in between the "Service for the Celebration of the Dead," and the "Service of Holy Communion." I have, for years, felt that that placement was symbolic of the fact that for a marriage to thrive, there must be a "dying to ourselves" and a consistent communion and fellowship with our Lord (hopefully on that part of both spouses). Perhaps the uniting of Ash Wednesday and Valentine's day is symbolic for us as well...
I recently retired after 46 years of pastoral ministry. Though the time was right, I had no idea the degree to which this decision was going to put me, "out of sync." This is a term I've encounter often through my computer use: I need to "sync" my Contacts with my message App. I need to "sync" my printer with my computer. I need to "sync" my photos with the "cloud.' The term is referring to a process whereby everything will work together in a coordinated way. Upon retirement, however, I soon realized that my life was no longer "in sync." This was largely due to the discovery that I had lost a sense of "rhythm" in my life.
I had never realized how important "rhythm's" are to one's life. For 46 years I had developed sort of a "life rhythm." There was a daily rhythm: I tried to begin and end each day with a time of Bible reading and prayer. At some point, each evening, I would spend some time praying with Kristi; after that I would spend some time reading. At some point, each day, I would try to visit with Beth and John. Upon retirement I have mostly been able to retain my sense of daily rhythm; but there was also a weekly rhythm and that is where things began to fall apart: On Monday I would select hymns, prayers, scriptures, and a Call to Worship, for the worship bulletin. On Tuesday I would deal with church and Conference business matters. On Wednesday I would outline my sermon and do some visits with church members. On Thursday I attended Ministerial Alliance, Kiwanis, or Methodist Men's group. On Thursday I would also try to "follow up" on visitors to the church. Friday was sort of a day off. On Saturday I did the final work on my sermon. Sure, there were weeks when funerals, weddings and other events changed the schedule. But for 46 years this had pretty much become my weekly rhythm. But there were annual rhythms as well: September involved Charge Conference preparation, October was the annual Stewardship Drive, November brought Thanksgiving and launched us into preparations for December and Advent. Throughout the years there was sort of a "cycle" to my life, and I realize now that it was this "cycle" or "rhythm" that kept my life in "sync."! But life is different now and I realize that though I hated the "stress" of Advent, I am going to miss the special services of worship I led and the Advent sermons I'm accustomed to preparing to share with our church family. So, I find myself at a stage of life where I am striving to find a new rhythm. I think the new rhythm will partly have to do with the continued development of my counseling practice. I'm hoping my new rhythm will be a result of my spending time with God and discerning His plan for me in this new season of life. I am also hoping that perhaps my new rhythm will begin to emerge as I journey through this season of Advent. In short - I'm praying that Advent will be a time for me to "re-sync!"... I recently got my 2002 Honda Odyssey back from the mechanic, there was a problem with the fan in the heating/air system and a part needed to be replaced. I was worried when I first took it in; the car has 328,000 miles on it and I feared the problem might not be repairable. But it was. I got the car back and it works fine. My hope is soon to buy a new car and give this one to my son (or someone else who needs it). The resale value is very low and I can give it to someone who can still use it for local travel. Many have told me that I am foolish for keeping my cars for so long, but for over 40 years this is a strategy that has worked for me. I see no reason to change my approach now...
I spent three days working to put up the Christmas lights so our family could share in our annual "turning on the of the lights" on Thanksgiving evening. I had tested all the lights before placing them in their appropriate places and I thought everything was "good to go." But on Thanksgiving morning I decided to do a final test and one whole section of lights failed to shine. I was frustrated and ready to throw away several strings of lights and purchase new ones. But then my son and family arrived and my son had a different perspective on the problem...
My grandson is running "cross country" this year. In his very first race he ran two miles in 14 minutes and 21 seconds. He didn't come in first but he finished in the top 20 (in a field of 100). We (parents and grandparents) were very pleased with his first performance and glad to see him taking on a new discipline. His effort also reminded me that the Bible has much to say about "running" and the lessons this discipline teaches us about life...
I received a phone call from my wife the other day; she was upset. She told me that she had been involved in a traffic accident. My first question was: "Are you hurt?" Fortunately the answer was no. My second question was: "Was anyone in the other car injured?" Fortunately, again the answer was no. Beyond that the only thing to say is, "Thank you Lord!"...
A terrible wind storm came through the Tulsa area several weeks ago. The result was over 100,000 homes with out electricity, some for over a week. Other homes sustained more permanent damage.
This picture is an actual home of a family in our church. The winds not only blew off branches, it blew a tree down onto their house! Now our church has a "chain saw" gang that can work on downed branches and assist families who have yard debris. But this job was way beyond their capabilities. The weight of the tree (and the precarious nature of it's landing on the roof) made any attempt to try to work on it a dangerous situation. There are simply times when experts are needed.... My son and family joined us for the 4th of July; one of our family traditions, for this holiday, is making "home made" ice cream. Usually I am the primary "ice cream cranker" and I crank until my strength gives out; then I sit on top of the case while my wife uses both hands to crank the final rotations. The finished product is usually very good, but almost everyone agreed this years was the best. What made the difference?...
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AuthorDr. Allen Schneider is a United Methodist pastor and a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist presently serving the Sapulpa and greater Tulsa communities. Archives
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